This Valentine's Day... maybe more than any other in quite some time... we all need to take a little extra time to CELEBRATE LOVE. It's been quite an intense few years, and every act of kindness these days makes a difference. Remember, as that simple date in mid-February reminds us, that finding ways to express civility, optimism and love are oftentimes the easiest and most powerful way we can enact change in our world.
As for your primary relationship... Taking the cue from Cupid to express your love, re-connect and nourish your bond is such a gift! Here are some timeless ideas to ponder this February...
“I will pour more into my love than I expect to get out of it...” Finding tender ways to enhance day-to-day interactions with your partner will multiply and ultimately reflect back to you, almost magically. Begin making it a habit to ask yourself every morning what you can do that day to make life a little sweeter for your special someone.
“I will remember to let go...” Remember, in grade school, when you and your friends would argue there would be just an hour or perhaps a day gone by and the anger was completely forgotten? Allow yourself to recapture that childhood talent. Let any grudges or frustrations you have concerning your relationship or your partner’s eccentricities simply slip away. -The release will truly make you healthier.
“My partner has a different style than I do…” Every individual is wired with different ways to tap into strong emotions. Find out what most captures your lover’s attention: Does he need to hear, verbally, that you’re committed for life? Does she need to be showered with little gifts every so often? Does he need physical closeness when you express your love? Does she need you to share time discussing her goals or plans, so that she is reassured of your devotion and genuine interest? Also be sure that you communicate your own needs when it comes to displaying intimacy: your relationship deserves your honesty and clarity!
“My partnership is dynamic…” Try not to regret the fact that those first sparks of newly-found love are no longer at the heart of your relationship. Over time, the bond you create will mature and deepen – it’s only natural. But that doesn’t mean your love is any less passionate! In fact, the wonders of a long-term commitment are highlighted with facets such as Understanding, Shared Vision, Interconnection and oftentimes Heartfelt Awe as you witness one another grow through the years.
“Every day is a new beginning…” An optimistic outlook always does wonders! Remember that any given moment is a chance for a fresh start, on both a small and large scale. As human beings, we have the potential to enact personal change within an instant; keeping this in mind as much as possible will serve to lighten your relationship. That, in turn, will accent the romance and the joy you share together!
“Remember Valentine’s…” The idea of a love note may seem silly, especially after you’ve been married for several years. But sometimes it is those simple little displays of affection that really touch our hearts most of all. Allow the familiar traditions to inspire you: a box of chocolates, rose petals in the bedroom, a recited poem over dinner, a love song and secret dance in the darkness.
It will never change: creating a fulfilling and lasting relationship is solely your own responsibility. It is also one of your great joys… and in the eyes of friends and family it may be one of your great gifts to the world. Love inspires. Passion transforms. Allow your partnership to thrive, wholeheartedly. Nourish the connection you share with your partner and it, in turn, will utterly nourish you.